If the tantrum is because they want a specific toy they had in mind, or because they were told "no," we can teach them skills like requesting or waiting.

On the other hand, if they are showing this stubbornness due to pain, hunger, or being over-frustrated, and we provide comfort—such as hugging and reassuring the child—they should ideally calm down within 10 to 15 minutes.

However, is the child continuing this behavior for more than 20 minutes? Are we, as parents, unable to control it?

Assessing the Situation

If the child only bangs their head when the parents are present and looking, but stops the behavior when the parents move away, then we do not need to worry.

Intensity of the Behavior

Next, look at the intensity of the behavior. When the child bangs their head, are they doing it hard enough to cause an injury or bleeding?

● If so, we definitely need a clinical consultation.

● On the other hand, if the child bangs their head but not to a level that causes physical injury, we don't need to be afraid.

Duration

The third point is the duration.

● If the child shows this behavior for 5 or 10 minutes and then settles down on their own, there is no need to worry.

● But if the child continues to display this behavior for more than 10 or 15 minutes continuously, then we certainly require a clinical consultation.

Consistency

Similarly, if the child throws a tantrum only once in a while, it’s alright; we can understand that. But if the child is displaying this behavior consistently and continuously, we must understand that clinical consultation is necessary.

Conclusion

Parents should not view a child's behavior as trivial. From a child's perspective, every behavior has a meaning. Therefore, if a child displays a behavior that is beyond control, we definitely need to seek a clinical consultation.