Introduction
Life can get really crazy for parents. We want to spend time with our kids and know what is going on in their lives.. Sometimes it feels like we just do not have enough time. Many parents say they want to ask their kids about their day and be a part of their lives. However work and other things get in the way. They say "we just do not have enough time." The good news is that it is not about how hours you spend with your kids. It is about being present when you're with them. The 9-Minute Rule is a way to do this. It only takes nine minutes a day to make a difference in your childs life.
Understanding the 9-Minute Rule
The 9-Minute Rule is simple. You break the day into three parts: morning, afternoon and bedtime. You spend three minutes with your child during each of these times. This can be a way to connect with your child and make them feel loved. Here is how you can use the 9-Minute Rule:
1. The Morning Window (First 3 Minutes)
When your child wakes up try to make them feel good about the day. Do not rush them.
- Say morning to them.
- Tell them how great they are.
- Give them a hug or a kiss.
- Talk about the things they will do that day.
2. The Afternoon Window (Next 3 Minutes)
- When your child comes home from school ask them about their day.
- Put your phone away. Really listen to what they have to say.
- Ask them about what they did in school and who they played with.
- Let them tell you about their day.
3. The Bedtime Window (Final 3 Minutes)
- Right before your child goes to sleep talk to them about their day.
- Ask them what they liked about the day and what they learned.
- Tell them how much you love them and that they are safe.
- Make sure they feel happy and loved before they go to sleep.
Conclusion
The 9-Minute Rule is not meant to be the time you spend with your child. It is a good place to start. The more time you spend with your child, the happier and healthier they will be. If you are really busy try to start with these nine minutes. It can make a difference in your childs life. If you cannot spare nine minutes for your child you might need to think about what's important, to you. The 9-Minute Rule is a way for Busy Parents to connect with Their Kids.